Get rich…without envy


Regular readers will know that The Escape Artist grew up in a tiny village in the back end of nowhere in rural Cambridgeshire.

Eventually my parents decided that our mortgage was not big enough so, when I was 10 years old, we moved from the back end of nowhere to the middle of nowhere.

We moved to Swavesey, a village in East Anglia which is rarely confused with Davos. It was not the sort of place where you were likely to meet the social, political or financial elite of the Western World.

Back in those days, I was mostly happily occupied messing around in the countryside, shooting my air rifle, making campfires and experimenting with stinkbombs at school.

But occasionally I would be bored. So bored that I read the newspaper. On Sundays, my parents would get The Sunday Times.  Reading the glossy magazine that came with it, I learned about things like which restaurants in London were “hot” that month, trends in bikinis and celebrity mating habits.

I also learned that there was something called “The Season”, which gave rich people a series of opportunities to show off (this was before blogging).  The Season included a series of summer piss ups events such as Wimbledon, Royal Ascot, Goodwood, polo at Cowdray Park, Henley Royal Regatta and so on. For all the relevance this had to my life in East Anglia, it might as well have been describing life on Planet Zog in the Andromeda galaxy.

However, all this newspaper fluff brought the lifestyles of the rich and famous to the attention of a young and impressionable Escape Artist. The comparisons seemed dramatic between the beautiful people in the glossy magazine and the errr…more ordinary looking people around me at school or wherever.  This was not FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)…it was COMO (Certainty of Missing Out).

The young Escape Artist can perhaps be forgiven a certain amount of shallowness. I was as smart as the next guy. Trouble was, the next guy in Swavesey was an idiot.

So for many years I retained this idea that there were parties, nightclubs and events somewhere else where people were having a better time than me. The epicentre of this glamorous world seemed to be places like The Stewards Enclosure at Henley or restaurants like The Ivy in London.  Places where you wanted to go…mainly because they wouldn’t let you in.

After that Channel 4 TV programme last week, The Escape Artist was the subject of some debate in the national press as to how “realistic” or “normal” his case is.  As for realism, well, you can’t get more real than what actually happened.  And I’ve never claimed to be normal.

I developed an abnormally strong motivation to achieve financial security based on a mixture of “towards” and “away-from” motivations.

  • “Towards” motivation is how we are attracted to things that we want. And the desires and ambitions of the Young Escape Artist were undoubtedly fed by those glossy magazine images and stories.
  • “Away from” motivation comes from things we fear, distrust or dislike.  I never inherited any money but I did inherit a fear of poverty and being homeless.

In my teenage years, the economic reforms of the early 1980s were beginning to pay dividends…and the benefits were becoming obvious….at least in London.  There were plenty of pictures of stockbrokers in dinner jackets / ballgowns doing bicep curls with bricksized mobile phones and champagne glasses. What was not to like??

It therefore seemed a sensible move for The Escape Artist to follow the money after college and relocate to London where the action was.

Sadly, my experience working in finance was that there was actually quite a lot of hard work involved.  With numbers and shit. True, it wasn’t manual labour…real work like coal mining or building The Bridge on the River Kwai.  But it was still hard work.

And although my salary went up very nicely, I never earned the sort of money that bought you into The Social Elite. The sort of money that makes your jokes much funnier to Paris Holiday-Inn or whoever the latest trust-funded celebrity eye candy might be.

As the years went by, I did my share of corporate entertaining.  But even when I was at peak earnings and able to afford to go to the events of The Season, I was usually too knackered to want to do so.  And when I was sick of wearing a suit every day, the thought of wearing an even more ridiculous and outdated outfit to go to Ascot or Henley was not appealing.

But I never quite shook off the idea that some people might be having more fun than me and that this might be found at those sort of places.  And now that I have time on my hands, I though I’d put this idea to the test.

This is all a rather long-winded lead up to telling you that a couple of weeks ago, I spent the day at Henley Royal Regatta.  And, not only that, I spent it in the fancypants Stewards Enclosure.

Before anyone’s blood pressure gets dangerously high and more angry comments get left on the internet, I did not pay hundreds of pounds to get in nor rely on my high level connections. No, The Escape Artist was there working as a barman in one of the bars in the Stewards Enclosure.

In The Minimum Wage Experiment, I wrote about how I got paid to work the bar in the VIP area at Goodwood. This time I went one better and busted in to what has long been thought of as a bastion of entrenched privilege at the heart of The British Class System.  And got paid to do so.

This was a fascinating experience. I had a great view of the lawn and could see the river from where I was stood. But the best part was the people watching.  Its fair to say that there was certain amount of what rappers used to call “fronting and maxxing”. Or what your Mum might describe as “showing off”.  There were blokes in comedy blazers and women squeezed into low cut dresses with just enough chance of costume failure to keep things interesting.

But, I have to report to you readers that my overall impression of my day spent at ground zero for so-called toffs, wealth and privilege is that what it most reminded me of was a nice pub garden of the type you might find in any English village. The punters were not really any posher, or more beautiful nor anything special really.   The grass on the lawn really was no greener. There was no magic fairydust.

In fact, what it basically boils down to is:


This would be a let down for anyone who had spent their life furiously climbing the social or the corporate ladders to gain access to The Promised Land.  Especially if the cost of doing so was sacrificing their health and relationships with real friends and family.

Here’s my point: envy is one of the sillier and more childish of emotions.

And class warriors (who seem driven by envy) should console themselves with the fact that, whilst life may not always be fair, there are always costs paid by those with a high paying job. I’m not just talking about handing over half your income to the government in tax.  I’m talking about the cost to your health and happiness from holding down a job that never stops making demands on you.

We often have this strange idea that we can be happy after we reach a certain level of income or net worth or social position.  Or if we can get into the right clubs or restaurants, the in-places with the in-crowd.  But this is bullshit.  If you are not OK with yourself, its never going to be enough. Wherever you go, there you are.

The beauty of this is that if you are OK with yourself then every picnic or trip to your local pub is as good as a VIP package to Henley…or maybe better? This might take some work….but victory is very near to where you are right now.


  1. All very true, I did Ascot a few years ago with some friends of friends who were significantly posher than me… We had a DIY picnic with some nibbles picked up from Waitrose, and Fosters served by a man with a keg hidden in his rucksack. Seriously! Fosters! From a rucksack! I did have a glass of Champagne with a strawberry in it, but at £25 I decided one was enough….!

    Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad I did it, if only to realise that I don’t need to worry about missing out on it ever again 🙂

  2. dawnmartyne · · Reply

    Has TEA blown his cover?, after watching how to retire at 40 last week was he Barney? indeed!
    I suffer from this missing out syndrome at times, living in the north of England in a rural area i have wondered. So this helps settle me abit . Ive worked out im 34 months off FI. What do i want do do with my life???

  3. Steveark · · Reply

    That was simply beautiful, or rather it explained a complex idea in simple terms. Just awesome writing plus I bet most readers had to laugh out loud more than once just like I did. If you think the next guy is an idiot where you came from, well, I’m from Arkansas.

    1. Thank you…love comments like this 😉

  4. Prometheus · · Reply

    Swavesey, yep – I know it well. So near Cambridge, yet so far.

    I used to crash Brats in Sth Ken’ as a student in the early nineties, £8 a pop for a drink! We used to come prepared of course……a few of the offspring of minor aristocracy frequented that establishment – it would be poor form if I mentioned some of the fun we had. 😉

  5. Prometheus · · Reply

    TEA, you’re taking the reviews of the prog too personally, but critically the reviewers are in the consumerist business (adverts pay for news print).

    Most people who are likely to seriously consider FI will find it through this medium, they will be half way towards this by searching out sites like Monevator having realised the unfortunate future if they do not take back control.

    Topic de jour, of the day, as one American podcaster phrased it…..

    1. Yes, you may be right!

  6. I grew up in Henley. Most of the people going to the Regatta aren’t the social elite but people on corporate entertainment (which is usually far more tiresome than many would expect), or ‘normal’ people who think that going to the Regatta would be a bit of a laugh because it’s what the social elite do. As always, TEA hits the nail on the head that you can have almost the same experience on any given weekend during the summer by wearing a blazer or posh frock (dressing up is key to making it a special occasion), strolling down to the riverside (it’ll still be relatively busy, as you’ll have already experienced in the wait to get over the bridge), and sharing a six pack from Tesco (do they still do Pimms in a can?).

  7. The punters were not really any posher, or more beautiful nor anything special really

    I always think of them as Tim Nice but Dim types myself, but that’s me probably being slightly bitter, although limited experience of their kind has not had me awestruck with their intelligence. Years of interbreeding has maybe taken it’s toll …..
    Re: that program – shame they cut out (I assume) your explanation of the SWR and other points ? You might like this:

    1. Yes, The IG has a talent for screenwriting….Channel 4 take note 😉

  8. Brilliant. This post has struck a chord with me. Thank you for pointing out this simple flaw in thinking that acceptance and a feeling of belonging can be obtained through accomplishing, achieving and obtaining. We put ourselves through so many contortions and really, its simply about family and a peer/social group.
    I know how this idea is manipulated to sell things to people and I wonder if the world would look different if everyone had their need to belong fulfilled. Productivity and progress motivated by passion (reading blogs has made me wary of using that word) and vision (also co-opted for BuSiness) instead of consumption motivated by fear.

  9. Love this article, especially the last two paragraphs. So true!!

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