How to have a Great Day


You may remember Chloë who wrote the excellent Get Rich With Other People (Part 2) and Get Rich with Hobbies

Of my several thousand close personal friends (ahem), Chloë is my favourite lesbian vegan eco-hippy. 

We’re different in some ways but we’re both interested in asking: what is the good life?

So today we have a guest post from Chloë on…What Makes a Great Day?

A wise bird…

Good on you, you superstar, you deserve a treat  It’s time to give yourself a reward, a luxurious experience, an amazing day…no, a Great Day! Because you’re worth it, right?

I’ve consulted the mainstream media to see what a Great Day is and they are super clear; it’s lounging in a spa in a dressing gown, sipping a morning cocktail.

You, on the couch in pyjamas, stretching out and savouring chocolates, in front of your TV.

Sinking into that couch, conquering only a tub of Ben and Jerry’s and finishing a boxset binge. Shutting your eyes for an afternoon nap and ignoring your coquettish invitation to Type 2 diabetes.

Yes, it’s rubbish. The mainstream media should be ignored.

Do you notice that the media’s image of luxurious indulgence is spookily similar to the behaviour of people on the dole that haunt the sleepless nights of right wing politicians?

  • Not working?  Check 
  • Drinking throughout the day? Check 
  • Daytime telly?  Check 
  • Junk Food? Check 
  • Slobbing out, basically not even getting dressed? Check 
fat boy

Because you’re a savvy reader, this might seem like a judgemental post. I do indeed have a viewpoint, which means I’ve made a judgement. I want to convince you that the mainstream media’s depiction of a great day is complete tripe…and tell you what really makes a Great Day.

My thought process on this started when I was having a drink in the pub with The Escape Artist one evening, and he casually delivered a conceptual Jujitsu throw, so subtle that I didn’t initially notice, but continued to think about it for weeks after.

When discussing my future plans for financial independence, he pointed out that if all I wanted to do was not work, I could just sign on for unemployment benefit right now. If I don’t mind some bureaucracy every fortnight, I could collect some small benefits*, eat the most frugal food going or collect food given out charitably.

That made me confront what I actually wanted to do with my time.

I got thinking about what I do to relax from work and what I look forward to: indulgence. All I see in discussions of what makes a good time are indulgences: a tub of Ben and Jerry’s, a sofa, take-away and Netflix. Hold up though: how do you actually feel after that? Energised and purposeful, or lazy and overspent? Weird that, isn’t it?

The adverts want you to stay still and pay them to do things for you… hmmm…

I know when I eat junk food, I don’t feel as good. If I drink too much, I get a hangover. I feel sluggish if I laze around all day. Heck, even Netflix tries to shame you with occasional checks: it asks ‘Are you still watching?’ after a few hours. If you keep going Netflix goes:

‘Seriously bro, It’s been 6 hours, don’t you need to pee?’


‘You ok hun? Come on, no-one needs this much Orange Is The New Black, it’s been crap for 3 seasons’


What I’m saying is that the whole Wall-E humans look is not something you should be aiming for.

All this indulgence is good for a brief spell, but if that’s your whole day you will not feel good. What actually makes a Great Day, one that makes you feel good, is some struggle.

Before suffering though, you want to wake up right. A good day starts the night before – you won’t have drunk to excess, eaten far too much, or stayed up until 3 am boxset bingeing like a fool.

If you didn’t sabotage yourself the night before, you’ll wake up refreshed from a full night’s sleep. Then, you get up without too much lounging:

  • 30 minutes in bed with a great homemade coffee and some reading? Thumbs Up.
  • 3 hours (aka the whole morning) in bed? Time’s up.

A Great Day starts with hardship, voluntarily taken on. In my experience, that means making the first activity some exercise, pushing yourself and struggling, getting sweaty, exhausted, red faced and undignified. That kind of workout leaves me exhausted, needing 5 minutes to recover and has me walking back on shaking legs with a big smile on my face.

Then when I get back in, my coffee tastes amazing because I’ve added 2 teaspoons of delayed gratification, the ultimate flavour enhancer. My breakfast is protein rich and will be going directly to building muscles, plus I’ve burned so many calories that I’m still able to enjoy that slightly less nutritious hash brown without sabotaging my weight goals.

Physical hardship is great for you. You’re tired briefly, then you recover with the buzz of endorphins and with the groundwork for improved fitness laid.

The next thing in your great, awesomely enjoyable day, is some work. Ideally, some work you’ve been putting off, that’s been sitting around waiting to be done. Its time to stop procrastinating and just do it.

You get cracking at that, preferred beverage in hand and you get it done, achieve something, take a load of your mind and make this a day where you finish in a better position. I’d been putting off 3 tasks because they were a devil’s triangle of:

  • Being phone calls
  • Being bureaucratic
  • Being embarrassingly overdue.

2 of them would directly bring me money, but I put them off and the longer they’d been avoided the bigger significance they gained in my mind. After slovenly months, they were immense tasks to me, daunting and probably too much to do today. I should put them off until another day, when I’m, uh… yeah, more able to do them. Except, that day I had put them in my calendar at a set time, so when that notification came… I put them off.

Look, I know I’m terrible at this. But after pissing away another 20 minutes, I made that first call and in 8 minutes solved an issue that had blocked my LISA bonus. 8 minutes and I nabbed £1,000: not a bad rate of return, eh? The next 2 calls were similar, I was on a roll. I got a refund, then resolved a banking issue, all in under 40 minutes and I felt amazing – these terrifying tasks were paper dragons – I’m sure you can think of things you’re putting off that you could easily smash.

The fourth ingredient of a Great Day, for those of you who are counting, is again doing something with other people.

Heck, you can combine this with the exercise or the productivity, but we humans are social creatures and under the layers of modernity-incentivised isolation, we have a craving for company.

If we socialise, we check on someone else and they check on us, we give and receive encouragement. Make someone feel included and valued – we chose to spend time with them after all. They might let us know they need help, and we can help them and strengthen that bond and make things better for them. We might then be able to call on them later, should we need to.

Strengthening a social bond is doing a social good – that’s an odd way to think about meeting up for a drink with a pal, but you really have done something good there, that’s why it belongs in a Great Day. If you have a relationship, going out of your way to strengthen that too will make this a great day that continues to pay dividends in the future. We’re all about the dividends here, right?

Some of my thinking on this comes from reading Jordan Peterson, the mere mention of whose name will probably cause some people to instantly close this tab and never return. Those people almost certainly are reading too much of the same media that is telling them:

‘The World is ending! Sofa Sale Now On!’

The way I see it, Peterson is smeared and dishonestly misrepresented for putting out a simple message in non-simple ways: our lives gain meaning when we struggle to improve ourselves and encourage others to do the same.

Blaming other people and demanding their resources is pretty fashionable, but it doesn’t make for a good role model (or a Great Day). So I apply a bit of Peterson and a bit of Kant to the question of what makes a Great Day.

Run the mainstream media portrayal of indulgence through the iKant Categorical Imperativator app and you’d see a poor case for treating yourself to take-away, midday boozing and computer games. An expensive console is little consolation. If you make that your best day, you end up obese, tired and with nothing done.

Here’s the good news: a Great Day still has those indulgences, but they are both the final part of it and not a huge part at that. Having tested this for scientific purposes, I can assure you that 2 drinks feel better than 9 and that you don’t enjoy 5 hours of internet bullshit anymore than you do 1 hour.

Once you’ve had a full day by starting it early and refreshed, you can spare a few hours in the evening for treats. When you’ve pushed yourself physically, you can really enjoy that indulgent food. When you’ve been productive and accomplished something, you know you can sit back and do nothing but enjoy yourself.

When you’ve taken on responsibility and worked hard, got lots done, then you can be satisfied with yourself and reward that effort.

You finish the day better than you began it.  You’ve had a Great Day.


  1. Wait, I thought Peterson is smeared and dishonestly misrepresented for putting out the simple message than men and women are actually different… now I’m confused,,, 😉

    Great post and a perfect way to describe a great day.

    1. Hey now Accidental FIRE, our modern journalists are highly talented and adaptable, they are more than capable of dishonestly misrepresenting multiple people over a diverse range of issues

  2. paullypips · · Reply

    Chloe likes Jordan Peterson and is not an alt right young man?
    Blimey, it must be true that Peterson is for everyone.
    I am now on my third reading of his book, 12 Rules for Life – An Antidote to Chaos.
    This book has helped me even more than, dare I say it, The Escape Artist’s blog.
    A great post Chloe, more power to your elbow (and TEAs’).
    I hope your great day also includes time cleaning your room…

    1. Absolutely, Bucko.
      Thanks, really glad you liked it. I find the Venn diagram of ‘people who despise JBP as an alt right figurehead’ and ‘people who actually read JPB’ are closely resembles the Tatooine sky. I don’t like to argue it too much though, following Rule 6 after all.

  3. I’ve most definitely got a great day planned. I’ve just had breakfast in bed. Very civilised. I’ll get up shortly and meet my friends for a 9 mile run. Exercise, tick. Social interaction, tick. I’ve done an outstanding job recently of procrastinating on totting up my net worth. I’m sure it won’t take that long to do, but I’ve kept finding other jobs to do instead for weeks now. Today is the day to finally get that done. I’ll be sure and make some time tonight for some well earned relaxation too. I love a Great Day.
    Loving the blog post.

    1. Good job! Those long-put-off jobs build up a much bigger shadow than is warranted – you’ll knock it out the park, and feel great when it’s done.

  4. donaldtramp1 · · Reply

    Great post. Thanks for introducing us all to Chloe, TEA.
    It’s truly a pleasure reading her thoughts.

    1. Cheers, much appreciated.

  5. Angus in Wien · · Reply

    Great post, thank you. At the end I summed it up as: business before pleasure…If I can get all the tiresome but necessary stuff done and out the way, then it leaves time for doing something that is fun and enjoyable (without feeling guilty).

    1. Thanks Angus 🙂 I have a feeling that all this learning is stuff my grandparents knew and had as second nature. For all the new cool info, I think there’s some great groundwork that my generation could do with relearning.
      The phrase my partner and I use for ‘get the tough stuff done first is ‘eat your greens’, as in finish your vegetables before you have pudding.

  6. This was an interesting post. Made me reflect on how you change as you go through life. For example:

    I used to drink 15+ pints every weekend whereas now it would not bother me if I never drank alcohol again. My journey from A->B was pure luck – I stopped drinking due to a medical reason just as I started playing singles tennis and I dropped over 2 stone in months. I am still not sure if it was the increased exercise or the drink that was the main driver so I decided to keep doing both!

    For 40+ years I woke early without an alarm clock. I would often play sport before work so understand where you are coming from in your article. Then I retired and I have started sleeping in. I had to stop booking early morning spin classes because I was struggling to get up in time to make it. Now I take my sport later in the day.

    I used to study with music blaring out. When I went self employed I thought great I can start listening to music all day again. Never happened – could not work unless it was quiet. Then I went back to an office and wanted to tell everyone to shut the fuck up so I could concentrate!

  7. cer4t0n1a · · Reply

    Very nice piece of writing, although as my day started with a 16 mile run with friends, maybe that’s confirmation bias.

    I find a good deal to disagree with Mr. Peterson about, but also a fair bit I strongly agree with. One of the mental short-cuts a lot of people seem to make on the internet is the assumption that if a person has one opinion you disagree with, they must be wrong about everything. Or the opposite – if they have one unpopular or controversial opinion that I agree with, all of their other unpopular opinions must be right too.

    1. Nice run! Are you prepping for the April marathons by any chance?
      As you say, that thing of ‘You like this person, therefore you support literally everything they say’ is not great for productive discussion. What do you like about JBP’s writings?

      1. cer4t0n1a · · Reply

        My friends are doing the Boston (UK) marathon in April, but I have an 80th birthday party and a golden wedding celebration on that weekend. I have some longer, multi-day running plans, but I might do some other marathon in April or May.

        As for JBP, I’m ok with the 12 rules and very much like the message of self-reliance and self-improvement, particularly for the young men I see as his main target audience, but I can do without the religious dogma, Jungian nonsense and conspiracy theories etc.

  8. I found that when I’m having a bad day only by doing something positive can I turn it around into a good day. Exercise in the morning is certainly the best way to get your day off to a good start. My partner even accuses me of being high when I go for a run in the morning!

    1. So very, very agreed. I think it’s important to not ‘write a day off’, and I find exercise is a good way to recoup a day that’s not going amazingly. Typically, if I’m not feeling great – especially moodwise- I can force myself to change and head to the gym – it’s never made a day worse and often rescues it. That endorphin rush is real.

  9. Playing with Fire · · Reply

    Another delightful Chloë post! Fantastic. Do you write anywhere else Chloë? If not, then please continue here.

    Paper Dragons – Is that your phrase or is it borrowed from somewhere? It is excellent and so perfectly describes those ugly tasks where I’ve spent longer putting them off and adding them to lists than it actually takes to clear them. I’m please that it isn’t just me that struggles with them.

    1. Thanks, I appreciate it. I blog occasionally at but not super regularly. It’s a fun hobby but I haven’t quite got it fitting into my life yet. It’s not super FI related, but I drop the odd FI breadcrumb there.

      Glad you like the phrasing of paper dragons – I took it from A Song of Ice and Fire. I was deep into that series a couple of years ago, but the wait for 6th installment (nearly 8 years at the time of writing) has mellowed the passion a bit.

      You’re definitely not alone in struggling with some tasks, or in internally massively exaggerating their difficulty. The biggest part of them is psychological, plus the longer you’ve put them off… I literally have spent 8 months putting off an 6 minute phone call that netted me £80. Daft, very daft.

  10. Cassius Ferrel · · Reply


    Does Chloe run her own blog? I would love to read more.

  11. Cassius Ferrel · · Reply

    Sorry, ignore me! Just read the above comment.

    1. No worries Cassius, that’s a great compliment. If you’re particularly interested in homebrewing and cocktail making, the Havenwards blog will be up your street. Anything I write on here will be v much on the FIRE theme, unless TEA lets me veer off to tell the tale of how I won my first economics themed rap battle.

  12. Liesel Kruger · · Reply

    Hi there.
    I love your blog, loved this guest post and would also love to read chloe’s blog…. But despite my trawling I can’t find it. Any clues would be greatly appreciated.

  13. electrosphere · · Reply

    Good post Chloe! I really like the Tatooine Twin Suns analogy with the Venn Diagrams (your geek credentails are showing)

    I also liked your previous post where you mention about being a patient gamer, I’ve got a collection of Xbox 360 games for £1 or £2 a pop. Don’t worry, I acknowledge too much screen time is bad. That will probably take me 10 years to get through given I’m also out cycling and hiking 🙂

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